As military spouses, its difficult to navigate long distance while our service member is away. Whether it be a deployment or training, or some sort of school, long distance can put a strain on our communication, and our relationship dynamic as a whole. Dont fret, here are a few do’s and don’ts for getting through the distance.
DON’T
Stalk his social media. Thanks to the internet, we have a lot less privacy than we use to. We can see when someone “likes” a post, whether they’re online, and if their “snap score” goes up. If you haven’t received a message from your husband, and you see that he’s watching reels, you’ll probably get upset. Maybe he’s blowing off steam, or having a brain break-or maybe someone just sent him something. Either way, checking his socials wont help you.
Think the worst. Just because you haven’t’ heard from him doesn’t mean he’s ignoring you. He probably isnt mad at you. He probably isnt spending time with someone else. Its important to take these thoughts captive so that we dont jump to conclusions and drive ourselves crazy.
Blow him up with crazy accusatory messages. If you do the first two things I’ve listed, this is the logical conclusion. As women, our default responses tend to be emotional, and when we let it all build up, it might result in a paragraph that we soon regret typing and sending.
Match his energy, and decide to cut off communication. Let’s let maturity win, and choose not to get revenge on our husbands. Just dont.
DO
Spend some time with your support system. Nothing can make you feel good (or distract you) like a friend who understands.
Work towards a goal. Financial, fitness, a home improvement project, a hobby. These are all great mood boosters, and will give you a sense of accomplishment.
Send him a sweet message, asking about his day, and tell him you miss him. Simple. No accusation, no over the top emotional outburst, no manipulation.
Trust that he loves and misses you, and he will contact you when he can.
Conclusion
Long distance does a number on us military spouses, and our relationship. Its a part of this life than we cant escape, but we have a hand in how we handle it, and in the way we choose to react.
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If you’re gearing up for a PCS (Permanent Change of Station), you know firsthand how disruptive and chaotic the moving process can be. From packing up your belongings to saying goodbye to familiar faces, it’s easy to feel like your life is in upheaval. But fear not, because I’ve got some creative strategies to help you maintain a sense of normalcy during this transitional period. Let’s dive in!
Create a PCS Survival Kit: As you pack up your belongings, set aside a box or bag of essentials that you’ll need during the move and immediately upon arrival at your new duty station. Include items like toiletries, bedding, snacks, and entertainment to help you feel more at home amidst the chaos.
Establish Familiar Routines: While your physical surroundings may be changing, try to maintain consistency in your daily routines. Whether it’s sticking to your morning workout or enjoying a family dinner together each evening, these familiar rituals can provide comfort and stability during uncertain times.
Stay Connected: Just because you’re moving doesn’t mean you have to lose touch with your support network. Make an effort to stay connected with friends and family members through phone calls, video chats, and social media. Their words of encouragement and virtual presence can help ease the transition.
Explore Your New Neighborhood: Once you’ve arrived at your new duty station, take some time to explore your surroundings and get to know your new community. Visit local parks, shops, and restaurants, and don’t be afraid to strike up conversations with fellow military families. Building connections in your new neighborhood can make it feel more like home.
Maintain Self-Care Practices: Moving can be physically and emotionally exhausting, so be sure to prioritize self-care throughout the process. Whether it’s taking a long bath, going for a walk, or indulging in your favorite hobby, carve out time for activities that recharge your batteries and help you feel grounded.
Get Creative with Home Decor: Inject some personality into your new living space by incorporating familiar elements from your previous home. Display photos, artwork, and mementos that remind you of happy memories, and don’t be afraid to experiment with new decor styles that reflect your personality and preferences.
Stay Flexible: Finally, remember that flexibility is key during a PCS. Things may not always go according to plan, and that’s okay. Embrace the unexpected, roll with the punches, and trust that you have the resilience and adaptability to navigate whatever challenges come your way.
While a PCS may disrupt your normal routine, it doesn’t have to derail your sense of normalcy entirely. By implementing these creative strategies, you can maintain a semblance of stability amidst the chaos of moving. You’ve got this!
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It’s time to take control of your health so you can show up with confidence every single day. We wear so many hats, but the best version of you, is the healthy version who is in control of your own body.
You’ve tried extreme diets that promise quick results, only to turn around and have a cheat meal that turned into a cheat weekend. Or you’ve cut out all your favorite foods, and felt absolutely deprived to the point that you’re miserable. Or you’ve drank the shakes with questionable ingredients, only to find that your pants are tighter than before. Sound familiar?
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Grocery Shopping Guide:
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Going Out Guide:
you can still go out to eat! You just need to know how and what to order, and which easy substitutions you can make. Have your steak and eat it too!
Cleaner-Greener Cleaning Guide:
a cleaning guide in a nutrition program? Yup! Household cleaning products are some of the biggest toxins we come into contact with. The body cannot heal, detox or lose weight if you’re using them!
Cleaner-Greener Body Products Guide:
another huge source of toxins! The toxins found in body products can congest your liver and disrupt your hormones, both of which are essential to losing weight!
Guide To Healthy Fats:
fats are not your enemy! This is not the 90s and I am not a fat-hater. Fats are actually necessary to losing weight! This guide will teach you all about which fats to eat, which to eat raw, and which to cook with!
Guide To Healthy Sweets:
I recommend laying off of the desserts for 9 days, then reintroducing them. You have the rest of your life to eat sweets, you can give it up and just eat natural sugars for 9 days. This guide will teach you which sugars are safe.
Guide To Kids Healthy Eating:
We all know feeding kids can be downright crazy, right? Sometimes we find something that works, and just stick with that. But, what if that thing that works, is actually GOOD for them? That’s actually a thing. And you’ll get that guide here.
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DISCLAIMER:
Due to the nature of this content and the fact that this program cannot be retracted once purchased, this program is non-refundable.By purchasing these products and participating in the program, you agree that Aseaba Arnold is not liable for any potential damages incurred. She is not a doctor or RD, the wellness program is simply meant to guide you to eat well. Any statements made have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and not meant to treat, diagnose or cure you.
As military spouses, we often find ourselves juggling numerous responsibilities, from managing households to supporting our families through deployments and relocations. Amidst these challenges, it’s easy to overlook our own health and well-being. However, prioritizing our health is not only essential for our own sake but also for the well-being of our families and our ability to support our spouses effectively.
Importance of Physical Health:
Maintaining physical health is crucial for military spouses, as it directly impacts our ability to fulfill our roles effectively. Regular exercise, nutritious eating habits, and sufficient sleep are foundational elements that contribute to our overall well-being. By prioritizing these aspects of health, we can boost our energy levels, enhance our mood, and reduce stress, enabling us to tackle daily challenges with resilience and vigor.
Embracing Mental Wellness:
In addition to physical health, mental wellness plays a significant role in our ability to navigate the demands of military life. The transient nature of the military lifestyle, frequent separations from loved ones, and the inherent uncertainties can take a toll on our mental health. As a result, it’s essential to cultivate coping strategies, such as mindfulness practices, stress management techniques, and seeking support from friends and professionals when needed. By nurturing our mental well-being, we can build emotional resilience and maintain a positive outlook, even in the face of adversity.
Creating a Supportive Environment:
As military spouses, we are part of a unique community that offers invaluable support and camaraderie. Engaging with fellow spouses, participating in support groups, and accessing resources provided by military organizations can create a supportive environment where we can share experiences, seek advice, and find solidarity. By connecting with others who understand our journey, we can feel empowered and less alone in our struggles, fostering a sense of belonging and unity.
Conclusion:
Prioritizing our health as military spouses is not just a personal choice; it’s a vital mission that impacts every aspect of our lives. By investing in our physical and mental well-being and creating a supportive environment, we can unlock our full potential and fulfill our roles with strength, resilience, and vitality. Let’s embark on this journey together, prioritizing our health and well-being every step of the way.
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I'm a wife, crunchy mom of 5, Jesus lover, and homemaker. Join me on this wild journey of moving every 3 years to unpredictable locations as the wife of a US Marine.
