Being a military spouse comes with its unique challenges, one of which is often feeling resentful towards your partner’s career in the armed forces. It’s understandable to feel this way at times, especially when their duties require long separations, frequent moves, and a significant amount of time away from home. Not only that, but its hard to feel like you’re working towards your own goals when everything revolves around the military. However, it’s crucial to remember that marriage is a partnership, and together, you can navigate these challenges and thrive as a team.
Embracing the Team Mentality
In any successful team, each member plays a vital role in achieving common goals. Similarly, in a marriage, both partners contribute to the success and well-being of the relationship. While your spouse’s career may demand a lot from both of you, it’s essential to recognize that your contributions are equally valuable, whether through emotional support, managing the household, or pursuing your own ambitions.
Exploring Opportunities for Personal Growth
Resentment often stems from feeling stagnant or unfulfilled in your own pursuits. As a military spouse, you have the freedom to explore various opportunities for personal and professional growth, even if your partner’s career requires frequent relocations. Consider pursuing further education, starting a business, volunteering in your community, or delving into hobbies that bring you joy and fulfillment. Remember, building your future alongside your partner’s career is not only possible but empowering.
Join the Milspouse Mastery Community
If you’re seeking a supportive community of like-minded individuals who understand the unique challenges and triumphs of being a military spouse, look no further than Milspouse Mastery. Our online community is dedicated to providing resources, fostering connections, and offering encouragement to military spouses worldwide. By joining Milspouse Mastery, you’ll gain access to a network of individuals who share your experiences and are committed to helping each other thrive.
In conclusion, while feelings of resentment towards your partner’s career are valid, it’s essential to approach them as opportunities for growth and understanding within your marriage. Remember, you are part of a team, and together, you can overcome any obstacle that comes your way. Embrace the possibilities that lie ahead and join us at Milspouse Mastery to embark on this journey of empowerment and support.
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As military spouses, its difficult to navigate long distance while our service member is away. Whether it be a deployment or training, or some sort of school, long distance can put a strain on our communication, and our relationship dynamic as a whole. Dont fret, here are a few do’s and don’ts for getting through the distance.
DON’T
Stalk his social media. Thanks to the internet, we have a lot less privacy than we use to. We can see when someone “likes” a post, whether they’re online, and if their “snap score” goes up. If you haven’t received a message from your husband, and you see that he’s watching reels, you’ll probably get upset. Maybe he’s blowing off steam, or having a brain break-or maybe someone just sent him something. Either way, checking his socials wont help you.
Think the worst. Just because you haven’t’ heard from him doesn’t mean he’s ignoring you. He probably isnt mad at you. He probably isnt spending time with someone else. Its important to take these thoughts captive so that we dont jump to conclusions and drive ourselves crazy.
Blow him up with crazy accusatory messages. If you do the first two things I’ve listed, this is the logical conclusion. As women, our default responses tend to be emotional, and when we let it all build up, it might result in a paragraph that we soon regret typing and sending.
Match his energy, and decide to cut off communication. Let’s let maturity win, and choose not to get revenge on our husbands. Just dont.
DO
Spend some time with your support system. Nothing can make you feel good (or distract you) like a friend who understands.
Work towards a goal. Financial, fitness, a home improvement project, a hobby. These are all great mood boosters, and will give you a sense of accomplishment.
Send him a sweet message, asking about his day, and tell him you miss him. Simple. No accusation, no over the top emotional outburst, no manipulation.
Trust that he loves and misses you, and he will contact you when he can.
Conclusion
Long distance does a number on us military spouses, and our relationship. Its a part of this life than we cant escape, but we have a hand in how we handle it, and in the way we choose to react.
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Managing finances can be challenging, especially for military families who often face unique financial situations due to frequent relocations with varying costs of living. However, with careful planning and budgeting, it’s possible to achieve financial stability and peace of mind. In this comprehensive guide, we’ll walk you through the process of creating a military family budget, step by step.
Step 1: Assess Your Income and Expenses
Start by calculating your total monthly income, including military pay, allowances, and any additional sources of income.
Next, list all your monthly expenses, including fixed costs like rent or mortgage payments, utilities, groceries, transportation, insurance, and discretionary spending.
Step 2: Set Financial Goals
Determine your short-term and long-term financial goals, such as saving for emergencies, paying off debt, buying a home, or investing in education.
Prioritize your goals based on their importance and feasibility, and set specific, measurable targets to track your progress.
Step 3: Create a Budget
Based on your income and expenses, create a realistic monthly budget that aligns with your financial goals.
Allocate funds for essential expenses first, such as housing, utilities, and groceries, then allocate remaining funds for savings, debt payments, and discretionary spending.
Step 4: Track Your Spending
Monitor your spending regularly to ensure you’re staying within your budget and identify areas where you can cut back or save.
Consider using budgeting apps (I love Every Dollar) or software to track your expenses automatically and categorize your spending.
Step 5: Adjust as Needed
Be flexible with your budget and make adjustments as needed to accommodate changes in income, expenses, or financial goals.
Periodically review your budget to ensure it remains relevant and effective in helping you achieve your financial objectives.
Conclusion:
Creating and maintaining a military family budget requires diligence, discipline, and commitment, but the rewards are well worth the effort.Remember your goals, and hold one another accountable. By following these steps and prioritizing your financial goals, you can take control of your finances, reduce stress, and build a secure financial future for you and your loved ones.
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I'm a wife, crunchy mom of 5, Jesus lover, and homemaker. Join me on this wild journey of moving every 3 years to unpredictable locations as the wife of a US Marine.
